Living With Roommates

By Kayla Bilal

March 01, 2023

Nervous about roommate selection? Don’t panic. Today we’re tackling roommate conflict and giving you some helpful tips to ensure the longevity and success of your newfound roommate relationships!

three students posing for a photo

When starting, it's important to have a good foundation, so keep an open mind, be friendly, and get to know one another. Have those in-depth conversations about likes and dislikes and utilize your roommate agreements as an opportunity to set and maintain expectations throughout the school year. Getting to know the small things, like how your roommate studies, how cold they like it at night, and how often they have people over, gives you both a better idea of what compromises to make in order to meet each other’s needs and maintain a healthy relationship with one another.

As the year goes on and your relationship develops, don’t forget to communicate, communicate, communicate! When a problem arises, communicating how you feel helps your roommate share an understanding of the issue at hand. Though sometimes these conversations can get heated, remember to remain calm and respectful. Listen intently and recognize ways to compromise. With this in mind, you can create a safe space that you’ll both love.

Let’s say you had an issue, built up the courage to talk to your roommate, but you both haven’t been able to reach common ground. There’s awkward tension and things are getting  uncomfortable. Don’t worry, you don’t have to handle this alone. Your resident assistant is your number one supporter and one of the many resources you can use to help find a solution. They can offer a listening ear and even serve as a mediator when you just can’t seem to get through to each other. If all else fails, there’s no shame in speaking to your residence coordinator and looking into a room change. 

two students posing for a photo with a resident assistant

All in all, know that roommate conflict is a small blip of your college experience. Conflicts might come up, but with these tips, you’ll be equipped to handle them. Focus on enjoying the journey of meeting new people and spending time with them. Having a positive outlook on roommate relationships can lead to fun in your res hall and possibly a new best friend!

If you found this helpful, here are some links with more information:

Living On Campus HandbookRoommate Resources